You might have a valid reason why being single is ok. You have great things going on for you, like your career or your business. You have great friends, you go out, you have freedom, you can do what you want. And you pretend, everything is going well. You are a strong, self-sufficient and independent woman.
Besides, who needs a man to be happy? It is not the 19th century, after all.
But then there are lonely nights and lonely weekends. There are moments when you wish you had someone next to you: to love you, to adore you, to spoil you, to call you “babe”.
There are moments when you think, it would be nice to have someone to cuddle with, to watch a movie, cozily wrapped up in a blanket on a sofa together. It would be nice to have someone to kiss good morning and good night. It would be nice to have someone to make passionate love with not just random sex..
At the same time, you might persuade yourself, who needs this romantic crap and you put the mask of a strong independent woman back on.
However, it is not the romantic crap! It is our undeniable human need for love and belonging. Without it, our life is incomplete.
We might convince ourselves our single life is fabulous, and it might be (if you are not happy on your own, no man will make you happy), but we deprive ourselves of the beauty of intimacy, devotion, warmth and love with someone special.
You see, no matter how great your friends are, they can’t give you what your soulmate can. No matter how successful you are at work, it will never make you feel loved. No matter how loving your family is, it is not the same love as your loving partner next to you.
When you travel to beautiful places on your own, you secretly wish you had someone special to share those precious memories. You imagine how lovely it would be to hold his hands walking on the beach together, enjoying the crushing ocean waves and the stunning sunset.
You want to share your moments of joy and great accomplishment with someone who will genuinely be happy with you. You want to have someone for the rough days as well, who will always support you and be on your side.
You need to have someone to help you zip the back of your dress, after all.
You need to have someone to share the journey of love together.
Many women make a mistake thinking “it sort itself out. It’s just the matter of time”. And they distract themselves with work and staying busy.
However, at the end of the day, when you are not intentional about your relationship, it won’t magically transpire.
You need the right tools to transform your personal life. You need the right process, support and accountability from someone who understands female and male psychology, someone who can help you transform your belief system, and someone who is walking their talk, i.e. happily married and in love.
This is what I do. Schedule a free breakthrough coaching call with me.
Don’t leave your happiness and love to chance. You can gain control over your life.