When I joined the leadership organisation to get certified as a speaker and a coach, one of the first things I picked up was “get good first”.
Of course, I was hungry to get the business going, but I needed to gain the expertise and become good.
I was really excited about all the resources available. I was like a kid in a candy store. Even to these days, I remember clearly my thrill, going through all the training videos.
I was studying, completing all the modules and exercises, absorbing everything really there was to absorb.
I was completely emerged in the process of “getting good”. I was absolutely convinced — you get good by learning.
Don’t get me wrong, you have to be good at what you do in order to be successful. However, you don’t get good just by learning, studying and going through trainings.
I missed the part that you get good by getting your feet wet and by actually doing it.
Yes, you flop a couple of times in the beginning, but that doesn’t make you “not good enough”.
Your skills and expertise are getting stronger when you do practice what you learn.
Somebody once said to me, “If you want to master anything, you have to teach it.”
That mindset “get good first” was actually keeping me trapped.
There was always another training to go through, another book to read, and another event to attend.
No matter how much knowledge, skills and strategies I acquired, I never felt I knew enough to start teaching what I learned.
It was going a bit deeper to the part of my self-image.
- It was riddled with insecurities.
- I didn’t think, I was good enough.
- I didn’t think, people would connect with me.
- I didn’t believe I had anything valuable to share.
That’s a very precarious place to be, when you are not certain within yourself.
No matter how many resources you have around you, if you don’t feel resourceful enough, you won’t get what you want.
The truth was, I knew more than most people in my inner circle at the time.
But I never gave myself enough credit, and it was hurting me.
If you wish to empower or help others, you don’t really have to know it all. You just need to know a bit more, and always be a step ahead.
Despite getting awards for public speaking, I would sabotage myself so many times when it came to monetising my speaking.
I remember, I was approached by a lady from the audience I had spoken in front of. She loved my presentation ( I think I did good job, based on the audience’s response). And when she asked me how much I charged for a keynote, I got frozen.
I was petrified that they would find out I was a fraud. My impostor syndrome was clouding all my intellectual abilities, expertise and common sense really, making me completely numb…
I squandered that opportunity and many others all because I didn’t believe I was good enough for people to pay me money.
Here is the thing. Whether you believe you are good enough, or whether you believe you are not good enough, you can find the evidence to support either claim.
The choice is yours. If you spend your energy on questioning whether you are good enough, you will never make any progress and become better.
Do your best, and give everything you’ve got unconditionally, without any exceptions.
Whether you receive praise or criticism, it is a subjective opinion anyways. It is biased. But you cannot control that bias. And you shouldn’t. It is a waste of energy and resources.
Confidence is a skill that you grow by doing and practicing.
You know enough to start making a difference.
Shine brightly in your power!