Even though my sister and I live in different parts of the world, the connection between us is pretty strong. My sister lives in Abu Dhabi. So, our life dynamics are such that we don’t see each other often. Yet, despite miles and miles apart we remain connected. I am so grateful for technological advances nowadays that allow us to stay in touch. My sister’s name is Nelia.
Not so long ago Nelia called me and said she was proud of me. (It was a bit of an unexpected call, because usually she has something to share or to ask while calling me) My sister said she always thought of me while going through tough times herself and that I had always been an inspiration for her since childhood.
She said she was watching and learning from me as I was going to Kiev, then Saint Petersburg, then Europe, then permanently moving to the USA, New York and shortly after Miami, and now living to England. She watched at close hand as my spirit was evolving and my desires were growing.
“You don’t let life happen to you. You live intentionally creating it the way you want. You inspire me to do the same,” concluded Nelia.
No doubt, I was happy to hear this from my little sister. But most importantly, I was happy to recognise that my life appears an inspiration to some, and especially to people I love most.
As a big sister I have always been there for Nelia trying to encourage and inspire her. I love her dearly and wish her lots of success and life fulfillment. And I know how hard it is to move to a different country, where nobody gives monkeys about you or your big ambitions. I am speaking from my own experience, as I had to go through various challenges and difficulties myself in a different country. And I am grateful for them, as they’ve helped me shape my character and my confidence.
I think I have a big influence on my sister. As she followed in my footsteps and moved to a different country herself, trying to make something of her life. Abu Dhabi in my opinion is not the best place in the world with its strict Islamic culture repressing women’s rights for a young and beautiful Ukrainian girl to move to, but I am not the one to make decisions for her. It is her life experience.
Maybe, I’ll get her to come to the USA or the United Kingdom one day. However, I acknowledge my sister for stepping up for her life, for not going with the flow, and for taking full responsibility for her circumstances.
To my mind, the most valuable lesson Nelia learnt from me was to take control of her life. Just like me, she refused to settle for less or become the victim of circumstances. We both come from the same poor family, from a small Ukrainian town, but we are intentionally creating our lives according to our dreams.
Such stories don’t happen often in our town: from Polonne to New York, Miami, London, and Abu Dhabi. It is not a common story.
And I am not sharing it to impress you, but to inspire you that you can create your life no matter how ridiculous and unrealistic your dreams may seem.
This is not the message on travelling, and a glamorous lifestyle. It is a message on gaining control over your life.
What is required to create your dream life?
- You have to know what you want: your vision has to be compelling and strong enough to move you to action.
- You have to change your mindset: think from the place of possibility and creation as opposed to limitation and excuses. Instead of contemplating the reasons and common sense why you can’t do it; contemplate about the ways how you can do it.
- Don’t look at mistakes as stop signs, look at them as learning points. Develop discipline and persistence. Work on your skills set: become so good they can’t ignore you.
Understand this: You wouldn’t be able to consciously come up with the idea if you were not equipped to bring this idea to life. It is a fact.
For example, I would never thought of me becoming a boxer: I am neither naturally built for such sports, nor I am passionate about it. So, I will never become a boxer. But I know I am a powerful inspirational speaker. That’s where my passion and my natural gifts are. And that’s where I am successful.
Check in with your aspirations, know where your skills are, where you need to work more, and where your heart is. That doesn’t mean that you are going to have to change your career, your profession, your partner, or your place of residence. However these insights will bring more fulfilment and meaning to your life and what you are currently doing.
You need to step up for your life, but like I always say, any outside change is proceeded with an inner change in your thinking, mindset, and believing, as they sponsor your behaviour. In order to change your life, you need to change your thinking and your behaviour.
Change on the inside conjures up all the changes on the outside, in your life, career and personal relationships.