I speak to many women all the time who are either stuck or frustrated or unhappy in their life. They have different reasons and valid explanations. However, when I ask them what it is they want, there is usually either a long pause or a hazy response.
It always makes me wonder, how on earth do you expect to hit a target you don’t see? I want more love, more business, more freedom, more fulfilment are all great aspirations. But what does “more” mean to you? What will more freedom look like for you? Can you vividly picture those ideal relationships (if you are single and you want to attract your soulmate)
I will tell you one thing from my own experience: if you cannot picture clearly what it is that you want to create, it will never happen for you.
What and why are powerful coaching questions you can ask yourself. Stay in those questions to get as much clarity as possible. Clarity is the beginning of mastery. Clarity is the beginning of transformation. If you get really curious about what and why, I promise you the how will show up automatically.
Simple question: what is your heartfelt desire? Can you see it clearly? Can you step into it? How does it make you feel when you imagine it in your reality? And why it is important to you?
If thinking about your desire you automatically ask yourself, “how am I going to make it happen”, you are creating resistance. You will unconsciously focus your attention on the barriers and obstacles. When you think about the how, you think with your intellectual mind that usually rejects or neglects the new ideas. When you think about the what and why, you appeal to your emotions and feelings. Your feelings usually drive your behaviour.
When you get really excited about your idea, you open the doors to creativity and infinite possibilities.
The whole point is to become aligned with your desire. And it won’t happen if you think about the how
If you feel like it is far away from your reality, you are not welcoming it into your life. You need to work on that inner resistance, which is often is fuelled by the feelings: I am not good enough or I don’t deserve it.
I truly believe, you cannot “make” anything happen. You can only welcome it. When you force something, there is resistance. When you allow it, there is natural flow.
Have you seen those women, who as soon as they walk in the room, the word “winner” is written all over them?
They are so full of confidence and their energy is magnetising. You don’t know what it is but you wish you had it. And it feels like they just always get what they want, naturally and effortlessly.
You can be one of those women. But it takes inner work. You have to be aligned with your desires.
The more details of your desire you can picture in your imagination, the sooner you will be able to bring it to your life
The whole idea is to get emotionally involved with your desires.
I am a big fan of Napoleon Hill. So, I am going to quote him on this matter who speaks perfectly into the power of desires and how they work.
“Desires that are mixed with emotional feeling magnetise the brain cells in which they are stored and prepare those cells to be taken over and directed by the law of hypnotic rhythm. When any thought appears in the brain or is created there, and is mixed with keen emotional feeling of desire, the law of hypnotic rhythm begins, at once, to translate it into its physical counterpart. Dominating thoughts, which are acted upon first by the law of hypnotic rhythm, are those with which are mixed with the strongest desires and the most intense feelings. Thought habits are established by the repetition of the same thoughts.”
Everything that gets impressed on your subconscious mind with positively charged feelings over and over again seeks its expression in your physical reality.
That’s how the process of natural manifestation works. No matter what is happening in your outside world, if you imagine your desire in your mind over and over again mixing it with emotionally charged feelings, by law, that desire will manifest itself in your physical reality.
So, get crystal clarity on what it is you wish to bring to your life. Get emotionally involved with your desire. And give your desire as much energy and strength as you can on a consistent basis. If you allow this process to work, I promise you, you will be amazed with the results.