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When I was a little girl, I was dreaming of travelling to other countries, exploring their culture, history and beauty. But since our parents didn’t have two pennies to rub together we were that poor to buy extra yogurt or banana (there had to be a big holiday to buy those things) the idea of travelling to other countries was a pure utopia.

Little did I know that later in my life I would be traveling around the world.

Never underestimate the power of your imagination. It doesn’t matter what is going on around you now. Your dreams if they come from your heart have an incredible power. Very few people use their inherent creative powers.

Belief mixed with imagination creates miracles. I am speaking from experience.

Anyhow, this week we are in Munich, Germany. It is the first time visit to Germany for my husband and his kids. I was in Berlin just for a day while on our way to France as a college student, while I still lived in Ukraine.

We did the major tourist sightseeing with a local tour guide, which was absolutely fascinating. I have always been a major admirer of the beautiful architecture, it just feeds your soul and takes you places.

The creators of those edifices expressed their love to God in a such magnificent way. Theatine church completed in Italian Baroque and Rococo architectural styles, Gothic St Peters church, Renaissance St. Michael’s church were simply awe-inspiring.

The BMW museum was also on our list. Germans know how to make their cars, combining beauty, efficiency and perfect engineering. There was a beautiful BMW Roadster Z3 1995 with a licence plate 007, which made us all smile. My husband, Christian, has a nickname Bond among his American colleagues. We took a great picture, a la, “The name is Bond. James Bond.”

Simple and often silly things are the best in collecting beautiful memories

Visiting Germany and learning about its history would be impossible without touching the subject of Nazi regime and concentration camps. It was a dark chapter in the history of Germany and Europe.

The visit to Dachau concentration camp 12 miles from Munich was simply harrowing. The gruesome details of the mass extinction of millions of innocent people is stomach-turning. I am not going to go into a deep detail, but the experience was intense and disturbing.

It made me think about a vital life lesson. Don’t deny your past, no matter how horrible it was.

Despite the atrocious cruelties, Germany doesn’t hide from the fact it happened. It openly and transparently shows the actual events that happened during those dark times. Germans are ashamed and sensitive about their recent past, but there is no denial or hiding. They study their history thoroughly so no past mistakes are repeated in the future

It brings me to so many women, who are hiding from love because of a horrible heartbreak they experienced in the past.

Instead of embracing the experience as part of their life and learning from it, they prefer to put it in the darkest inner corners. They don’t talk about it, they try to forget it and they hope it will disappear.

Except, it doesn’t disappear. On the contrary, the shame around it grows and strengthens. And shame is the strongest in dark places.

How do you get rid of darkness? You turn on light. You accept it, you learn from it, you allow it to heal.

When you don’t embrace and learn from your past, it bears its consequences on your present and future.

Don’t let the outside circumstances define who you are. Accept them as facts. Trust me, later in life, you will understand the deeper meaning of those events that you needed to go through in order to grow and become better.

Ukrainian by birth, American at heart, world traveler, who dares to go after her ambitious goals. Empowering women to achieve their dreams

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