I came to work, to a restaurant. It was a cloudy day (unusual for a sunny Florida), which was totally reflecting my mood. I hated my job as a waitress (I didn’t come to America from poverty in Ukraine to be carrying trays with dirty plates). My boyfriend at the time wasn’t responding to my texts or phone calls… My car broke down, and I was stressed how to find the money in order to fix it..
In a word, I was just fed up…
It was an opening shift and I had to set up a restaurant. I hated that tedious and ungrateful routine, but I had to do it. As I was placing plates and glasses on the tables, one of the plates just slipped from my hands and landed on the floor being shattered to pieces…
Damn it! I thought!
Everything was going wrong that day. It felt like the whole universe was just against me.
Morning shifts were usually slow at that restaurant. After about 2 hours I got my first table… When I came to the table to get a drink order, the two ladies wanted just water. I asked if they wanted a bottled water, to which they said no. They wanted a tap water of a room temperature with extra lemon and lime, and ice on the side. I was getting annoyed with all those requests for a free water, but I tried to stay polite. I knew it would be a difficult order..
As I wrote down all requests, one of the ladies asked, “Is your water filtered?”
To which I said dismissively, “No, it is not filtered”
I was trying hard to conceal my vein-popping fury..
“It should be filtered. Why it is not filtered?” The woman insisted.
At that point I said assertively, “Because, ma’am, it’s not filtered. Do you want our UNFILTERED tap water or not?!”
“I don’t like the vibe here.. And I don’t like your vibe. You need to work on your attitude.” She said. And then, both of them stood up and marched towards the exit.
“You, b*tch!! I need to work on my attitude?! You don’t like my vibe? Well, guess what, I don’t like your vibe either!”
I was itching to say that into her face, but I took a higher ground and just remained silent..
Vibration, attraction, manifestation… I didn’t really buy into that “woo-woo” vibration, kumbaya and tree-hugging nonsense! How on earth was it going to help solve my problems?!
My life was in shambles. I was broke, deeply dissatisfied with my job, and miserable in my relationships. I knew, I was in a dead-end love affair, but was hoping for it to change and enter into that “happily ever after story”
The energy around me and the energy within me was toxic… But, in my head, my energy and my personal vibrations were reflecting my current conditions and circumstances… How could I be happy, if everything was going wrong…
The environment around me was forcing me to wallow in the pool of negative vibrations… Like those two women, who were free-loaders and had a nasty attitude…
How could I be happy if my boyfriend just disappears and doesn’t answer my calls or texts.. I mean, it is not my fault. I didn’t wish to create those circumstances…
I was so convinced in my “truth” that life wasn’t fair to me, that nothing would persuade me otherwise. I had all the evidence to be miserable…
I was oblivious to the fact that unconsciously I was attracting all those negative conditions, circumstances, people and emotionally distant boyfriends.
Reflecting on those events now makes me laugh…
My energy at that time was stifling: I was constantly complaining about my life, the lack of money and ungrateful customers.
No wonder, my boyfriend didn’t want to spend a lot of time with me, let alone commit to a serious relationship with me. I wouldn’t want to be around that energy myself. I was lucky to even have a boyfriend.
I was at a job I hated because I never took action to change it. I was afraid to exit my comfort zone. I wanted more but I didn’t believe it was possible for me.
Who am I to live the life of my dreams? I was just average, without talents or gifts… “You can’t do it”, my inner voice was loud and clear.
That was my constant negative narrative, which was an automatic response to any inspirational idea I had.
I had too much hate in my thoughts and words. I kept saying, “I hate my job. I hate my relationship. I hate my life.” Guess what, the world holds a mirror to our beliefs about it. All those thoughts were manifesting in my reality. It was, indeed, hateful…
I was coming from a negative energy of scarcity and despair.
That woman in the restaurant was right, I needed to work on my attitude and my vibes.
Raising our personal vibrations is a stepping stone to improving your results.
Nothing positive will emerge of anything negative.
If you are single or unhappy in your personal relationships, you need to learn to increase your energy. Are you happy being on your own?
If you wait for relationships to fix all your problems, you will be waiting for a long time. Everything is multiplied in a relationship: if you are miserable being single, you will be more miserable in a relationship, and if you are happy on your own, your happiness will be increased with someone you love.
How do you raise your vibes?
Every day, commit to doing something that makes you happy: it will increase your productivity.
Be intentional about your time and priorities how your spend your time.
Be mindful of your thoughts, deliberately cultivate uplifting thoughts.
Express gratitude! There is so much to be grateful for.
In a word, raise your vibrations and you will raise the quality of your life.
By the way, this is not a woo-woo or kumbaya nonsense, as I used to think before. There is a strong scientific evidence that this stuff really works. Read the book “Field: the Quest for the Secret Force of the Universe” by Lynne Mctaggart and “Biology of Belief” by Bruce Lipton. You will be absolutely awe-inspired!
Change will not happen overnight. But you will be surprised, how small incremental and consistent changes make huge shifts in the big picture.
Once I started deliberately working on my mindset, I changed every aspect of my life: I am happily married with a man of my dreams, I do what I love, my husband and I frequently travel around the world, and I am extremely grateful for the numerous blessing of my life.
You can too! Start today! This moment!