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How to Stop Overthinking Things?
How overthinking kills the attraction between a man and a woman. What truly creates connection.
Do you ever overthink things? Do you try to make things perfect? Do you find yourself frustrated because of your quest for perfection?
All my life I have thought, perfectionism is a great virtue. The drive for excellence is always admirable, right? However, it is the opposite of progress, it keeps you stuck, it is the driver of procrastination and it never helps you achieve your desired outcome. Especially, when it comes to creating a loving relationship.
Before I got married to my soulmate, my perfectionism was always getting in the way when I was dating. I just couldn’t relax and be myself. I had to make the best impression. Looking back now makes me laugh, but I will share with you a couple of instances that perhaps will make you laugh as well:)
I tried to look perfect. So, when there was a guy on the horizon, I would go to a high end shop and buy myself a beautiful outfit, way beyond my budget. However, I wouldn’t cut the label, so when the date was over, I would return that item.
A posh dress that had to be returned would get many compliments, but for some reason wouldn’t help me connect emotionally with a guy I liked.
