How to Get Proper Motivation?

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There are two primary causes why people change. One is pain. The other is pleasure. What moves you? And what driver is more effective?

As a kid growing up in a poor family, my parents were never able to buy anything that wasn’t first nee.

I remember, I really wanted a leather jacket. It was a fashion thing back in the day and I really fancied it. But of course it was expensive so I couldn’t have it.

I also wanted a bike. All my friends on the street had one, and I wanted to be like them to fit in and be accepted. However, it was not an unnecessary expense so we couldn’t spare money on it.

I also wanted to go on school trips and excursions to other cities, but you guessed it, we didn’t have money.

Growing up in Ukraine was tough. Most of what I wanted I couldn’t have.

I just had to be grateful to have a roof over my head and food to eat.

I had many dreams and desires though. I kept imagining what it would feel like to be able to get the things I wanted.

Despite the hardships and poverty in my reality, in all of my desires and wishes I was running towards my dreams, not away from pain.

My mind was focused on the dreams not the problems and hardship. I kept dreaming of the amazing things I…