How to Get Connected with Yourself so You Can Connect with Others ?

We, women, are often spinning out of control, being wrapped up with emotional whirlwind…How to get yourself back on track.

Anna Simpson
4 min readJan 22, 2020


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We women are often spinning out of control, being wrapped up with emotional whirlwind… And then, when we look back some time later, we laugh at how ridiculous our initial reaction was.

I have found in my life that when I feel down, out of sorts, or going down the spiral of negative self-criticism, I get disconnected from my own inner power.

When we are out of balance and not connected to our inner power, we are unable to have an adequate perspective on what is happening around us.

Why is it so destructive? And how do you change that?

The other day, I was scrolling down a Facebook newsfeed, and I came across a success story of one of the women I personally know. She is a lovely lady and I wish her nothing but the best.

However, seeing her achieving a major milestone in her business and life produced a funny reaction within me.

On the one hand, I was happy for her success, but the other part of me was jealous. It is a strong word but that’s exactly what I was feeling…

Unconsciously, I started comparing myself with her, judging and blaming and negatively criticising myself.

I got emotionally stuck in the “I should be doing and achieving more by now” thought process.

Intellectually, I knew it was a slippery slope, but I couldn’t gain control over my negative inner voice.

My negative inner voice was saying, “By their fruits you shall know them. And look at your fruits. What is wrong with you? You don’t have what it takes.” We are all familiar with that nasty inner critic.

By the way, during such low emotional moments of comparison, you always diminish your fruits and the significance of your results. No matter what they are, they always seem less, compared to the alleged astonishing success we see in others.



Anna Simpson

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