How to Gain Control Over Your Feelings so You Come From the Place of Power?

What do you feel right now? Are you happy or frustrated, joyful or sad, hopeful or stuck, grateful or resentful?

In our busy and hectic pace of life, we rarely pay attention to our feelings and emotions, when there is an action to be taken and a decision to me made, when there are outside things to be done. We don’t pause, take a deep breath and connect with our inner self. We don’t tend our soul.

We underestimate the importance of our energy and personal vibrations. We constantly go outside of ourselves to solves the problems that require going within.

We forget the simple life wisdom that if we fail to go within, we will go without. And then we complain why there is so much lack in our life.

We don’t realise that our infinite inner wisdom knows all the answers to all our problems. And it all begins and ends with our energy, our feelings and our emotions

Life is going to show up for you in the direct proportion of the energy you put out there.

It is not a “kumbaya” approach, a la “lets hug trees and be happy”. It is a science of the law of nature — cause and effect. We receive what we send out.

What you feel now in this moment holds the clue where you are: whether you are approaching closer to your dream and desire, or you are far away from it. The clue is simple: when you feel good, you are close. When you feel any kind of resistance or misalignment, it is a sign you need to address some inner limitations that are holding you back.

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As I work with women, they usually tell me, I do love him but the feeling is not mutual. How can I be happy? How can I be joyful if my love isn’t appreciated and reciprocated?

First of all, to me, that’s a sign that a woman doesn’t love herself enough. If she stays in an unfulfilled relationship, holding some illusions and hopes, but deep inside realises it is a dead-end road, she doesn’t value herself enough.

It always amazes me how many women don’t realise that if you don’t love yourself, no-one else will love you.

If you are looking for love in the wrong places, or where there is no love, you really need to ask yourself, why am putting my energy where it is not appreciated?

When there is no mutual feeling between a man and a woman, it is not love. It might be passion, addiction, dependence, fear of being alone. Instead of really checking in with her feelings and understanding what sponsors them, a woman frets and struggles trying to “make” him realise she is the one.

No matter what happens on the outside, you can always exercise your choice of response and how you feel about the outside stimuli.

A confident and strong woman who has a healthy self-image trusts her heart and her intuition. She is anchored in her power. She is in tune with her feelings and emotions. She is consciously placing her energy where it is cherished.

You can become that woman! All it takes is the inner shift in how you feel about yourself.

If there is something that is missing from your life, get in tune with your feelings. Bring your conscious awareness to what they really mean. What are they revealing to you about yourself?

Ask and listen…

“The quality of our life is in the direct proportion to the quality of questions we are willing to ask ourselves”, as good old Socrates said thousands of years ago.

Ask yourself, am I coming from the place of power and abundance or the place of fear and scarcity? The way you feel helps you understand many things in your life.

Going within is not that difficult.

Get curious about yourself.

Ask open-ended questions.

Get in tune with your emotions.

Stay present.

Learn to listen.

Look for signs or insights.

Thats how you learn to gain control over your feelings. You will gain awareness and insights what sponsors them and how to turn things around.

The answers and solutions to all of your problems are always within. Learn to trust yourself more.

Ukrainian by birth, American at heart, world traveler, who dares to go after her ambitious goals. Empowering women to achieve their dreams

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