I had an interesting coaching conversation with one of the amazing ladies I have the privilege to serve.
We were talking about what’s holding her back from stepping into the unknown and learning in the process. She shared with me a brilliant insight that will perhaps help you:)
She said (I am obviously paraphrasing). It is like a princess locked in the tower and guarded by a dragon. Instead of just sitting there and waiting for a prince to come and rescue her, she takes action and rescues herself.
What is interesting in this process is that she discovers that the dragon is not an obvious enemy. The dragon is not necessarily evil and he is trying to protect her… His job is to keep her safe. Besides, he is trapped in that tower as well. He isn’t free to go where he pleases. He has to guard the princess. But as the princess summons her courage to rescue herself, she become friends with the dragon in the process, and they free each other.
What if the dragon is our fear? An uncomfortable feeling of stepping into the unknown? And all it is trying to do is to keep us safe? And what if we can make friends with our dragon (whatever that represents to us)?
The problem with our fears is they come from the source within us which doesn’t like making changes because it is uncomfortable.
There is a voice inside us which says, “No you can’t do it. You will get hurt/disappointed/heartbroken etc.”
We have to understand that voice is not all evil. It is not our enemy. It is the same voice that says “no you can’t jump off a cliff because you will get killed” That voice just like the dragon is trying to protect us and keep us safe.
The only problem with that voice is that it doesn’t have the situational intelligence. It doesn’t know where there is a real danger is or where there is just that uncomfortable feeling of stepping into the unknown.
This is where your intelligence comes in. You have the power to consciously make a choice to either step into freedom, even though it might seem scary and challenging, or remain trapped in the tower, being stuck and frustrated
Whatever that dragon represents to you, it is not your enemy. Try to understand it, accept it and make friends with it. Don’t hide from it.
That’s what they mean by saying, face the fear and do it anyways.
I encourage you to sit down and write what it is that is stopping from stepping into freedom. What is your dragon? And how you can make friends with it?