I go to Ukraine pretty often to visit with my family. On one of those trips, I had an interesting experience that made me think.
One day, I went to the grocery store and there I accidentally I bumped into my classmate whom I hadn’t seen for more than ten years. So, we shared about our life journeys, and I shared where I was and what I was doing. And, in the end, being an inspirational speaker, I added, I believe, we all have the power to create our dream life.
My classmate looked at me sceptically and said, “It’s easy for you to say so Anna. You live out there in the big world, where everything is possible; while I live down here in this small town, where nothing really happens.”
To be honest with you, my native town is not exactly a commercial and financial centre of the world.
As I was walking home to my parents’ house, I thought about it and I asked myself a question, “Is it really a problem with the limitations of the small town?”
And at that moment, instantly a story came to my mind when I met a lady at a networking event in Miami. She was a real estate agent. She shared with me her story of a continuous struggle trying to get new clients because of such a high competition, despite the fact that Miami real estate market was booming. But now we are talking about a big world in a big city.
There was a common denominator between these two completely different people from completely different worlds. But it became apparent to me that the problem was not a geographical one.
We have so many challenges in our life that show up in myriad different disguises, we have so many things that get in the way of our success and happiness, but ultimately, the only real challenge we face, is ourselves, is what I call the small town person mentality.
I shared my thought process with a friend of mine and she agreed with me. She said, “It is definitely not a geographical problem; it’s a mental one. Look at yourself. You come from those limitations of the small town in Ukraine, but you’ve come such a long way and now you live your dream life.”
She was right, over the course of my life, I’ve had the privilege to live in three different countries: Ukraine, the USA, and now the United Kingdom of Great Britain.
I’ve lived in big cities like New York, Saint Petersburg, Miami, as well as in smaller ones, like Ocean City NJ, Hollywood, FL, Hanley Castle, England, and of course, my native Ukrainian town, Polonne.
And everywhere I went to, my husband and I travel around the world, I’ve seen this time and time again, whether it is a massive city like London or a small Ukrainian village — the small town person mentality, showing up in different ways and in different forms, but ultimately creating a small life reality.
Let me elaborate on it.
- The small town person mentality is the inability to see beyond the limits of your current sight;
- it is the inability to see the big vision;
- it is the lack of belief that the world could be a bigger and better place,
- it is not believing in your own capabilities.
- It is the limitations that tell you, you can’t do it.
People with the small town person mentality:
- Do not create their life but prefer to go with the flow.
- They don’t believe in themselves and they don’t pursue their dreams.
- They love comfort zone, they love conformity;
- They accept things as they are;
- They never dream of how things could be.
They live the same way as their parents and grandparents lived, accepting the belief system of what things mean and how life is supposed to be, never questioning and never discovering anything new.
That’s why they stay in the same village, town, or city generation after generation, holding on to their small town mentality, regardless whether they live in a massive city like London, or a small village in Ukraine. And their small town person mentality creates their small life reality.
I have a feeling, you are not like those people.
Don’t let your past or current conditions and circumstances define your present life and your future. Stop accepting what’s available, start looking and imagining what’s possible.
I encourage you to create a big vision for your life. I encourage you to think big, to imagine beyond of what your current sight is capable to grasp. See more of what you believe is currently possible. That’s what cultivates your I can power..
People in my family say, “Oh, Anna… She just does what she wants!” Like it’s a bad thing…
I am proud to be able to say I do what I want, that I have freedom to choose.
And that’s how it is supposed to be.
And everybody can do it.
I am not lucky.
This is not luck.
This is cause and effect relationship!
Life is supposed to be fulfilling, life is supposed to be rewarding. And you have the power inside to make it happen on the outside with the help of your vision and imagination!
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