Perfection is stagnation. Progress always beats perfection. Do your best, forget the rest. You can never reach a horizon.
While all these statements are true, do you actually live them?
We live in a culture of “never good enough”. The benchmark for excellence is higher than ever. Competition on the market place is sky-scraping… Beauty and plastic surgery industry is booming. Alcohol and drugs are an illusionary exit from pain.
This culture cultivates unrealistic expectations with high demands for yourself, which promote the feeling of not being good enough.
Now, instead of growing and developing ourselves, we hide, pretend and give rise to inner insecurities.
The life portrayed on social media is so removed from reality it is shocking. But it is the place where you can pretend everything is ideal.
A quest for perfection keeps people stuck. Instead of taking an imperfect action whether it comes to business or personal life, we wait for the perfect set of circumstances to begin. And yet, the ideal moment never comes.
People get ready getting ready; they procrastinate; they question their capabilities and their worthiness; they don’t believe they are good enough.
Especially women! We always question “Am I good enough?”
Beauty standards are so high that women are petrified their extra pound or cellulite will prevent them from experiencing genuine love.
They spend a fortune on brand clothing, shoes and bags; cosmetics, facelifts, boobs jobs, and other plastic surgeries. They go hell for leather to be accepted and to be loved.
The problem is, they are looking for worthiness at places where worthiness cannot be found. Outside attributes will never fill the void inside.
If you don’t feel you are good enough inside, a million dollar look won’t help you. It won’t bring you love and happiness.
The primary motivation of all our desires is the need for love. The good news, we don’t need to reach certain standards and fit into certain expectations to have it. We are all worthy and deserving of it. We just need to allow ourselves to receive it.
The bad news, we have to conquer ourselves.
I once heard, if you wish to meet your biggest competitor, go and look in the mirror.
Often times, I find myself stuck because I want to get things done perfectly. Even when it comes to writing, which I am so passionate about, I get quite annoyed when my writing doesn’t fit my own high expectations. Or worse yet, I get tangled up in a comparison trap.
It is a serious problem. Looking outside ourselves for validation and approval is a sure way to spread the virus of self-doubt.
We have to stop it. We are conscious human beings; we have to control where we spend our energy: on others or on ourselves.
There is always going to be someone better, prettier, smarter, and more successful than us, no matter where we are in life. We shouldn’t try so hard to fit the universal standards.
> What I have noticed, a badly written piece is better than a perfect idea never brought to life.
> Genuine beautiful smile with wrinkles around eyes is way sexier than a perfect unemotive look of a doll.
> A genuine conversation with a loved one while having a picnic in a park is way more romantic than a silent dinner at a high end restaurant.
> Holding hands with the person you love is way more precious than receiving diamond earrings as a cold gift.
When we stop looking at what others are doing and start focusing on our own uniquabilities, we gain a new perspective on life, beauty, love, and happiness.
You don’t need to fit certain body measurements to be loved. You don’t need brand clothing to be approved. You don’t need a degree to be successful. You don’t need to be perfect to be enough. You just need to be you. Different. Unique. Even quirky.
Accept yourself as you are. Unapologetically. There is no one like you and that is your power.
And yes, you are enough as you are. Unconditionally.