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3 Things You Can Do To Be More Assertive
Let me be very clear — being assertive doesn’t mean being arrogant, aggressive or stuck up your backside.
Being assertive means comfortable in your own skin, not being afraid to freely express yourself and your needs.
My husband told me, one of the first things that really attracted him to me was my assertiveness.
When we first met, I thought he was married. And I am very black and white when it comes to married men. It is a big no, no matter how charming, sexy and charismatic that man could be.
So his insistent courting made him confront him directly. I just asked him, “Are you single Christian? Because if you are not, this ends right here and right now.”
He liked it. And, no he wasn’t married and didn’t have a girlfriend. I became his one.
When you are assertive, you know what you want and you confidently go after it.
How do you develop your assertiveness?
First of all, learn to say “no” to things that don’t serve you or are not aligned with your values. It applies to things and people.
For example, if you don’t feel like going out with friends, just say “no”.
Always check with yourself if by saying…
